If you have recently experienced an increased amount of stress, congratulations. Most likely it is an indication that you are in touch with whatever your true feelings are. However, if you are feeling inadequate or bad due to feeling stressed, you need to think again. Everyone feels stress at one time or another. No one can completely escape it. One particularly stressful time in life can be the pre-wedding and stag weekend time period. Effectively managing anxiety and stress can be critical to making this a positive time in your life for both your partner and yourself. Planning your wedding should be something that brings the two of you closer together and helps to build intimacy. Too much stress can definitely interfere with this crucial goal. One of the major differences between those who are overwhelmed with stress and those who are better able to manage it isn't whether stress is present or not. Instead, it is being able to recognise stress whenever it does take place and knowing how to manage it.
Major Sources Of Stress
There are many stressful new roles, expectations, expenses and decisions to make during the pre-wedding time period. Many individuals don't realise how much of an impact stress can have on both their relationships and personal happiness. Maybe one of the toughest aspects of this pre-wedding time period is the disparity that exists between, on the one hand, its inherent stress, and on the other, all of the expectations that this will be a time that is full of fulfilment and happiness. One very large and common source of stress is being a perfectionist about the wedding arrangements. Just because you are about to get married doesn't mean that other regular sources of stress disappear. Pre-wedding stress can compound the additional stressors. Just remember any kind of change is stressful, which includes a change that is good. (And of course getting married should be a big good chance). Some other factors that can commonly contribute to stressful feelings include over-commitment, work, illness, travel, moving, and loss of a pet, friend or family member. For people who are single parents or about to enter into a second marriage, financial complications and the demands that come from raising children can also be stress factors. Some stressors can be controlled. For example, some commitments activities are optional. How many social invitations you accept or how perfect you are expecting your wedding to be are things you can control. Other stresses are things that you can't control, such as illnesses and personal losses. To manage stress effectively, the first thing you need to do is recognise the sources of stress that you can control and manage them.
How To Take Control Of Stressors
If stress overload is something you are experiencing, think about things you can do to lessen the amount of stress you have.
- Have a discussion with your partner to ensure that your true desires are reflected in your wedding plans. Sure, a grand wedding can be great, as long as it is something that is really worth all of the expense and effort to you. However, some couples come up with wedding plans that are very elaborate without really thinking through whether or not some of them are based on assumptions they are making about what the other partner wants. (For example, assuming your partner wants a big wedding). If you are planning to have a big wedding and your budget allows for it, think about hiring a wedding planner or coordinator to handle all of the details for you.
- Some tasks or chores you might be able to delegate. Don't hesitate to ask your partner, relatives or friends to help with these. This might mean hiring extra help at times. For example, to care for children or clean, even if you have to spend more money than you had been planning to for a short period of time. Allow some of the load to be carried by your wedding service vendors. They are professional and experienced wedding experts, after all. When it comes to the tasks that you need to personally supervise, be very selective.
- Accept the fact that you can't control everything when it comes to your wedding and that there limits to it. There are bound to be a couple of imperfections in any event that involves a large group of people. Things that don't go according to plan often become treasured wedding stories in the future.
After you have done everything you can to control the sources of stress, most likely there will be a number of uncontrollable stresses that are left. Don't worry, there are numerous strategies available to help you cope with stress and support yourself. How To Support Yourself During Times Of Stress When it come to handling and recovering from stress, there are many things that you can do.
- Get enough sleep.
- Exercise on a daily basis.
- Eat moderate, balanced and regular meals.
- Avoid excess drugs, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine and sugar. After the temporary relaxing or stimulating they result in your system crashing.
- Learn meditation or relaxation exercises.
- Maintain your perspective. Speak with other people about their stress.
- Set aside time for pleasurable and fun activities.
- Spend time connecting and spending positive time with your partner.
Just don't put too much pressure on yourself to make too many changes at the same time.